I love technology. I’m writing this on my phone sat on a train travelling to work, impossible without the joys of technology and the internet.
But it’s not all good. Using my own experience as an example, we do seem to suffer from ‘notification mindset’ where everything requires immediate attention. The result is attempts at pointless multitasking, sometimes conflicting with basic manners and respect.
This is not helped in our house by the huge number of ‘tasks’ created by three children and the fact we both have blogs to fill and Twitter about.
Example: I’m going to start talking to you while switching on the blender even though you’re upstairs in the shower.
Well that’s just not going to work is it?
Granted that is an extreme (and made up) example but my point is that while we were multi tasking we were also complaining that our children’s communication was not as good as it used to be.
Person 1: They don’t bloody listen to a word I say
Person 2: Sorry what was that? I was reading something on my phone.
I’m sure we’ve all done it, started a conversation and then drifted off into phoneland – but, honestly, isn’t that just totally bloody rude? I still do it and I think so.
We realised that to expect respectful communication from our children we must communicate in a way to that shows respect. So we set a little mini-rule to prioritise face-to-face conversations over virtual ones, and that you have to see and look at the person you are talking to before you speak. It seems like the most obvious thing in the world but sometimes that is what gets lost in the midst of children, chores and other stuff.
It’s all part of teaching the little people to treat each other with respect and have a healthy relationship with technology.
Do we do it all the time? Of course not, we’re not perfect and sometime shouting “Throw some socks!” up the stairs is necessary.
What about you? Do you see this in your home? How do you juggle the draw of blogs, Twitter and the like?